Today I learned that Abraham Lincoln had the most peculiar way of dealing with his anger.
What do most of us do when we are angry?
It’s so easy to just explode and lash out on what angers us, to just let all that passion flow out and deal justice to the offender. But how often is it that allowing to be provoked into a passionate rage resulted in so much damage that we often regret about it later on?
I know how damaging anger can be, and I regret all the times I let get the best of me.
Nobody has the power to make me feel angry.
That is what a Stoic must always remind himself. That in each every person, lie a power so great that nothing from the external could truly break with out the person’s consent.
Epictetus reminds me:
“Keep in mind that it isn’t the one who has it in for you and takes a swipe that harms you, but rather the harm comes from your own belief about the abuse.”
Some days, when I see the sky getting dark I would say: “Mr. Rain, don’t start now, I don’t want to carry an umbrella around…”
Of course the rain won’t just not happen because I asked nicely. The truth of the matter is, the rain doesn’t care. Much like anything that happens in my life, the circumstances that come and go won’t give a damn about how I feel about them.
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How many times have I regretted what I said?
Marcus Aurelius says that opinions are never fact, and to add, no matter how close they are to the truth. When I have something to say, I have to consider so many things before I let it out. Because in most cases, a Stoic would prefer silence over dialogue on matters that are not important.
When it comes to your goals and the things you strive for, ask yourself: Am I in control of them or they in control of me?
– Ryan Holiday, Daily Stoic
This is the concluding question for today’s Stoic reflection, and looking back and thinking about my own reflections, I wonder about the many times my desires were the one to drive me.